Friday, April 20, 2012

On Pre-Marital Sex And God's Love

I sat at the back of the small Anglican Church. The lady leaning against the lectern was boring me stiff with her discourse on the dangers of premarital sex. Who did not know that you could get pregnant, or could get a girl pregnant if you had sex? And who did not know that AIDS kills? Wasn’t this supposed to be a fun-filled youth conference?
Apparently, she was trying to scare us from having sex. And she was failing miserably at it! Many of my friends are having sex. And it’s not that they have never had a lecture like the one I was having. If I still remember very well, we studied reproduction in primary school, studied it again in O Level, and one more time in A Level. We are experts, at least theoretically, on matters pertaining sex!
It looks to me like she was never successful at scaring us.
What if a cure for AIDS is discovered tomorrow, what will she say? We don’t even need to look forward to tomorrow. Latex condoms are doing a good job already at promoting promiscuity. Most of the adults today will tell you, “If you cannot stop our young people from having sex, at least let them have safe sex.”
The boring, highly moral, lady also told us that condoms could not be trusted as they were not 100% secure. But looking back at it, I think her argument would have held more water if a good number of my friends got pregnant or contracted AIDS while using condoms. I’m yet to see that.
What do you do for a generation that is so bent on destroying themselves that no hurdle is too high for them to jump?
How does telling teenagers of God’s high moral standards help them to attain them?
Is the WWJD (What Would Jesus Do?) movement practical?
Does God really care if my friends live a promiscuous life? Will he punish them?
How far can his mercy and love be stretched?
What if God loves us anyway?

Over to you! Feel free to share your ideas about this interesting subject!


  1. he loves us anyway!!
    no wonder he created such an enjoyable thing like sex for us!!

  2. Do you practice what you preach?

  3. The apostles didn’t use scare tactics when it came to the subject of fornication, but they encouraged believers to walk carefuly in their time on the earth. God’s love is not dependent on us fornicating or not. God’s love is Christ who is our life. These bodies are the Lord’s and it is just fitting/appropriate that wisely steward them. Fleeing from fornication is not a way to 'please God more' or get some ‘spiritual marks’ on some score board or get ‘more righteous’.It is fleeing from that which doesn’t speak of our union with Christ. Paul used our union with the Lord to disqualify sexual union with a harlot in trying to correct sexual behavior among the Corithians. Look at the flow of ideas in this passage
    Or do you not know that he being joined to a harlot is one body? For He says, "The two shall be into one flesh." Gen. 2:24 17 But he being joined to the Lord is one spirit. 18 Flee fornication.(1Cor6)
    I would interprete this as ‘’Flee fornication because it is not representative of your union with the Lord’’. The marriage covenant is a natural picture of our union with the Lord so I believe with that in view, Paul implies that sex is appropriate among spouses
    But let not fornication, and all uncleanness, or greediness, be named among you, as is fitting for saints; Ephesians 5:3-6.
    Key phrase: ‘’ as is fitting for saints’’